Some people listen to the wise advice their parents give. Others learn things the hard way. Then there are the things that you learn by....just by living, and experience. Things that I've found out in the wonderful game called life:
On life in general:
° Life is too damn short as it to not do what you want to do, and
be the best person you can possibly be.
° Would've, could've, should've, you didn't, now move on with your
life. Life is also too short to dwell on missed opportunities. Either
made plans to remedy that situation, or get over it.
° Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...and that's okay. Just make
sure you're playing the game.
° The day we stop learning things is the day something inside of us
dies. It's never too late to learn something new. Education is something
that NOBODY can take away from you, and there's more than one way to educate
yourself.
° You can choose to be happy or miserable in this life, and dammit,
I choose to be happy! It's later than what you think, and way too damn
late to still be working at a job you hate, in a bad relationship, living
someplace you can't stand, etc. I realize that everyone just can't up
an do whatever it is that will me you happy...but you shouldn't stay in
situations that make you miserable, either. Either make tracks to make
your life better, or quit bitching.
° You can't change a damn thing in the past. All you can do is live better for today.
On being yourself:
° Love yourself. If you don't love yourself, why should anyone else love you?° Being yourself is wonderful. If you are feeling the urge to change, do it for yourself, and not to fit someone's else's expectation of who you should be.
° On the other hand, if everyone from the 3 magi to your mother is telling you that certain habits and behaviors of yours are self-destructive, nappy, or just plain wrong, it's time to pull your little friend called introspection out and take a closer look at yourself to see if...*gasp* they might be right! Instropection is a scary thing at times because it entails *gulp* being honest with oneself. Just remember that it leads to enlightenment, which will mean a better you.
° For God's sake, please take responsibility for your own actions and the consequences of such. Is anyone else as sick as I am of this " not me" generation, in which everyone else is to blame for things your dumb ass did?
° Anger is a self-destructive luxury that nobody can afford for too long. Anger can fire you up to do better, or it can completely self-immolate your soul. As for being angry at people who have wronged you, well, they can't feel the flames of your hate, now can they? And even if they could, would they give a damn? Probably not. The only person you're hurting is you. Yes, I"m talking to you. Stop it right now.
On dealing with others:
° For whatever reason, there will be some people who JUST WON'T LIKE YOU. Maybe you remind them of a hated sibling, the skank down at the 7-11 whom their partner is engrossed on a torrid affair, whatever, they just won't like you. It took me a long time to realize this but it's THEIR problem. Don't make it yours. Please.° After a certain age, everyone comes with some sort of baggage, from carry-ons to huge trunkloads of crap. Just remember, friends help friends with baggage, friends don't put their baggage on you and pretend it's been yours all along. Tacky.
° It costs absolutely nothing to say something nice and make someone's day.
° Some people have been digging that Meow-mix for far too long. Such individuals are to be pitied, no matter what they say about you, because only a severely unhappy, petty, insecure person will basically stalk someone to see what they can "make fun of today." (Note: everyone has a bit of pettiness about them at times, I'm talking about people who make cattiness and bitchiness a full-time job. )
° If you seem to be attracting negativity (as in people, situations, etc.) it might be time to ask yourself why. Are you yourself petty as fuck? That might be the reason why. Like attracts like.